Why Did Adin And Pami Break Up
As much as I would love to tell you all of the reasons why Adi (Pami’s fiancé) and Pamie broke up, this article is too long. Therefore, we will focus only on the main reason for their breakup.
The main cause of her break-up with him was because he doesn’t like children.
He never expressed any desire to be a father ever to her or anyone else she knows. He also said that he didn’t want his own child growing up in a house without parents.
She understood it as him not wanting to become a parent, but she wanted to be a mother so badly that she put up with it and even encouraged him to change his mind once they got married.
She thought that when they had kids together then he would eventually come around, but he wasn’t willing to try at that time. She felt like if there were opportunities to adopt then she wouldn’t get out of bed every morning.
She always hoped that one day he would realize how important having a family is and ask himself what he was living his life for. If he can’t give his life meaning by helping others achieve theirs, what good is he?
Sadly, she found out that he isn’t very self aware of his lack of importance and he probably won’t be changing anytime soon.
They disagreed on many things
When they first met, Adi thought that she had found her soulmate in Pami. However, this feeling was not reciprocated at first.
Pami felt that she could never be with someone who wanted a family as soon as possible. She did not feel that being married for several years would make them happy together.
Furthermore, Pami didn’t like how controlling Adi can be. This includes limiting what kind of food she will allow herself to eat and making sure everything is done in a set order.
Adin also complained about how hard it was to find an apartment that suited their needs and cost a reasonable amount of money. It seemed like every place that she contacted turned out to either be too expensive or lacking in certain features that were important to her.
When Adi expressed interest in finding part-time work so that she doesn’t have to rely on her husband’s income, Pami told her that it was impossible. There are just not enough jobs available where you don’t need full time employment to survive.
They both became very settled
After three years together, Adi and Pam have decided to break up. This comes as no surprise to either one of them since they had been having issues ever since they first met.
Adin was always under the impression that his girlfriend wanted to get married soon after meeting him. He never felt comfortable with this because he does not want to marry anyone until he is sure she wants to be in a long-term relationship first.
He also feels that being in a committed relationship takes longer than people say it does, which is what made breaking up so difficult for him.
Pam always seemed more focused on her career than anything else when they were together. This made Adi feel like he did not matter to her and hurt his self-esteem.
When they would argue about something, it would usually go back and forth between them for hours before things got too bad. This way of arguing put a lot of pressure on Adi, who just wanted to move forward with his life.
They both became very single
After almost two years of being together, it was time for Adi to realize he could not be with this woman forever. He wanted more out of life than just spending his days with her and his nights sleeping next to her!
He wanted to explore other opportunities that come along when you are in your twenties and have some money saved up. Plus, he felt she was no longer interested in having sex as frequently or intensely as she had been before they were married.
She also lacked motivation to do things such as go out to eat or watch movies with him because she already received those services through her job. This made going out less fun for him and her.
He thought their relationship needed a break to make sure neither one wasted valuable energy staying close to each other. Having separate lives helps them focus on what they want out of life and gives them space to pursue these dreams.
They both went on vacation
While on their first day of vacation, they decided to take separate activities. Adi wanted to go for a bike ride while Pam wanted to tour some vineyards.
When they returned home that night, they talked about what a great time they had spent together and how much they loved each other. However, the next morning, things changed.
Adin noticed that his room was completely empty with nothing but pillows in place. He rushed into the bedroom to find his suitcase packed and his clothes gone along with a note saying good-bye forever.
He did not understand why she would leave everything behind and break up with him. It made no sense!
After having such an amazing start to their relationship, he could not believe it would end like this. This devastated him and he was unable to sleep or eat for several days.
It took him weeks to recover from this heartbreak and even now, one year later, he still feels pain over her leaving like this.
They both worked too hard
After almost three years of dating, it was time for Adi to realize that his relationship with Pami wasn’t working anymore. He loved her more than anything in this world, but he needed to pursue things that made him happy.
He had spent most of their time together living his own life. When he did get some free time, he would either spend it with friends or doing something he wanted to do.
It was tough being apart, so when she suggested breaking up, he agreed. Even though they were very much in love, he knew that if he stayed then he wouldn’t feel happiness ever again.
After thinking about what he could possibly be missing out on, he decided to move on and found someone else who gave his attention more frequently.
They both became too familiar
As their relationship progressed, Adi and Pamie developed an intimacy that was uncomfortable at times. This is normal when two people get close; it’s what relationships are built upon!
But for these two, it went beyond that.
They would constantly be looking into each other’s eyes with huge smiles on their faces. And while they may have started out as friendly conversations, it quickly turned into longer and more intimate chats.
This is great if you want to talk about your favorite movie or new restaurant recipes, but not if you feel like you’re talking to someone who has just met them!
Aditi made this very clear when she broke up with him. She felt he treated her like she had already left her family and life back in India. He didn’t respect that and it wasn’t fair.
They both wanted children
When they first met, Adi was very focused on finding his perfect partner. He did not want to get married until he felt that he had made enough progress in his life and career to have a family.
He also wanted to be in a relationship where he could feel like he didn’t need to work as hard because his significant other would take care of him and the kids.
Adin thought that having a family was something that he wanted later in life but he wasn’t necessarily set on it at this time. He still loved being a parent but he understood that for some people this is what they truly desire.
Pamila, however, always wanted her own family. She has always hoped to become a mother one day and she feels that she is too young now.
She wants to focus on building her career right now and saving money so that she can one day enjoy spending time with her child when she is older.
Both of these things can be really important to consider if you don’t want to put pressure on each other to have a baby. You should be willing to accept that your dreams may not match up and you may need to appreciate what you have while you can.
This doesn’t mean that you will never be together or spend time together as a couple, it just means that you should be honest about how much time you can give to this goal.
They both went their separate ways
After almost two years, Adi and Pam have decided to go their separate ways. This comes as no surprise to anyone who has been watching this relationship for some time now.
Both of them had made efforts towards breaking up before, but it always seemed like there was something more important that needed to be done first. Or they would get into an argument which would quickly escalate beyond what either one of them wanted to deal with at the moment.
Adi eventually realized he could not devote his life to work while also trying to make this work, so he resigned from his position. He is still very much in love with Pam, and she makes him happy, so he will probably move on soon!
Pam feels the same way about her career, so she has started looking for new opportunities. She is grateful for all of the things that Adi helped her achieve during their engagement, and she knows she will continue to grow as a person because of him.
